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2024 in Review
So, here we go again…My Sisyphean life up for review! I will say, for the most part, 2024 was a good year. Ken and I are happy, had some health issues and are extremely grateful for our life and location.
The Year in Review in simple question and answer form.
What did you do in 2024 that you’ve never done before?
Had a stroke, a heart attack scare and fainted while hiking in the woods. Took medication on a regular basis and tried a whole foods plant based way of eating. I went into our local pot store. (it was hilarious! and no I didn’t buy any pot.)
Boy out of the starting gate this sounds horrid!
Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions/motto, and will you make more for next year?
I like a new year and a fresh notebook.
The motto of Do Good stands well with me. some would say I called out Pity Me or She Suffered So, more often than I needed to. For 2025 the motto – “The Demons Hate Fresh Air” wins out as does, “Make the Present Better”.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
I guess not close enough as no one stands out.
Did anyone close to you die?
Yes. And sadly, this list is only going to get longer each year as we get older. In 2024 family, friends, and parents of friends died.
Let me say their names.
Kathy’s mom, Donna Funt
My cousin, Richard Hudson
Good friend, Jo Baner
Mentor and world shaker, Nadia Telsey
Trina’s dad, Verde Raper
Sandie’s dad, Dick Todd
Kore’s mom, Yvonne
Tracy’s husband, Eric
And some good dogs died as well.
Oscar
Stella
Frankie
Trixie
Morley
River
Kevin’s dog
What countries did you visit?
The better question is did I leave the coast? And the answer is YES!
We flew to Arizona for Ron Parker’s memorial service
We went to Bowen Island for Tamsin’s birthday and we had lunch in Horseshoe Bay with friends.
We are really quite happy staying home.
What would you like to have in 2025 that you lacked in 2024?
I don’t lack much – Okay, the postal strike made the holidays very quiet. No cards were sent or received. However, anything I do miss out on, is for the most part – my choice. I get lazy or my being an introvert kicks in and I’d rather stay home. I’d like to have a lot more days filled with health and wellbeing.
What events from 2024 will remain etched upon your memory?
Shingles are no fun. Never get them!
Hiking alone in the Matrix is a lot of fun.
Monthly lunches with Glen and Cheryl.
Having high hope for the US only to be dashed in despair
Laughing with Ken is just the best.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I don’t set out to achieve – However, I do keep count.
I read 45 books and listened to 77 and did not finish 34 because they were either boring or due back to the library before I could get to them.
I hiked a few more than 3,068,698 steps most of them solo.
I kept my girlish figure, within a pound or two all year. (except in Dec when I went a little nutty with the snacks and self pity with the shingles).
Gave away 7 quilts and more than 35 tote bags as “random acts of fabric”.
We started eating a whole foods/plant based diet for the most part. I find it boring as hell, it takes a lot of time and effort, and of course, it is good for us. Still, every once in a while – we happily go hog wild and have a steak or some ribs!
I started drawing quick sketches of people and joined 300 plus people from all around the world on Monday mornings with a zoom group.
What was your biggest failure?
I do not suffer in silence.
I thought I was immune to the shingles because I had them before, so I didn’t get the vaccine. Big mistake!
I read the ferry schedule backwards and we missed a nice lunch with Ed and Marsha (made up for it at a later date)
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Overall, Ken and I are well and healthy, but it won’t sound like it when you read the following:
I had a stroke,
I spent a day in the ER with chest pains that thankfully turned out to be a shitty side effect from a stupid prescription drug for arthritis – that I’ve since quit taking.
I had stupid eye surgery again, this time to remove a pterygium.
My family genetics gave me high cholesterol that came to light.
I got overheated hiking and fainted in the woods. The good news is I was with friends on that particular hike and came to with Sue petting my cheek, it actually felt delightful!
I got the fucking shingles for the second time.
We both had colds this year yet, are still in the “not yet” category when it comes to Covid.
We both had dental dramas and both got new glasses.
Ken is well and came through clean and clear with his annual check up, and all his numbers are good! He is a rock star nurse and took great care of me through all my dramas.
All this sounds horrid and parts were, yet our days are good.
What was the best thing you bought?
A heat pump for the downstairs and shop.
New hiking boots.
An ironing board cover!
Regular massages
Ken got a few new tools for his shop.
We have a full wood shed, a closet full of fabric and art supplies, and of course, a freezer full of blueberries.
Whose behaviour merited celebration?
First and foremost is Ken Parker. The man is good. I am lucky he is in my life. Then there is Art Hudson, Erica Anderson, Jess Rice, Anna Michael, Kathy Granger, Jeff at our library, Trina Raper, Patrick Vissor, and of course my BFF Sandie Moss!
Whose behaviour appalled you?
The majority of the USA – You know who you are… (and are probably not reading this!) Still, seriously – WTF? And fuck you if you voted for that fucker! Sadly, Canada is right behind them and yes, I’m appalled!
Where did most of your money go?
Look in Ken’s shop and in our bellies! Haha. The heat pump wasn’t cheap. Neither was the dentist, food is stupid expensive and still we are fortunate to be able to say most of our money goes towards making life easier for ourselves and others.
What did you get really excited about?
Wearing a bra again after shingles. My girls were tired and sore!
I really love spending hours alone in the woods.
The Christmas dinner Kas ordered for us as a gift! Yum! Yum!
A new waffle iron, surprise chocolate, an on-line drawing class, and socks that came in spite of the Canada Post strike
Reading Greek Mythology captivated me – those gods are crazy!
Finally getting around to reading Salman Rushdie and discovering Natalie Haynes books
What song will always remind you of 2024?
The songs on Art Hudson’s album Party Animal
Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? Happier ( with more angst)
ii. thinner or fatter? I am one pound over my self-imposed weight range.
iii. richer or poorer? Richer in all ways that matter.
What do you wish you’d done more of?
Hike, hike, hike
Did you fall in love in 2024?
Ken has my devotion and heart. Our life together is good. We celebrated 41 years of marital bliss this year. I could not have asked for a better partner in life.
What was your favourite TV program?
I record TV shows, then fast forward through them. I watched a lot of the Olympics, and I got sucked into watching Blue Bloods, and The Rookie. Time well wasted.
Have you let go of any resentment or have a regret you cling to?
I will always resent selfish, stingy and narcissistic people in general, Specifically, who cares?
I regret being so whiny with the pain of shingles, but come on… it was brutal! .
What was the best book you read?
I read a lot this year and I listened to a lot as well –
Mythos by Stephen Fry wins best book for me of 2024 and in second place Pandora’s Jar by Nataile Haynes
Anything Salman Rushdie wrote – I swallowed his stories with awe.
A few other favourites were:
Northwoods by Daniel Mason
The House I Loved by Tatiana de Rosnay
How Not to Die by Dr. Michael Gregor
The Frozen Thames by helen Humphreys
Midnight Blue by Simone Van Der Vlugt
The Unseen by Roy Jacobsen
Circling the Sun by Paula McLain
Yellowface by RF Kaung
Deacon King Kong by James McBride
Fifty Words for Rain by Asha Lemmie
What is Left the Daughter by Howard Norman
The Forgotten Daughter by Joanna Goodman
Jemez by Mark David Albert
Clara and Mr.Tiffany by Susan Vreeland
Best surprise read was:
Little Big Man by Thomas Berger
Then there were the Greeks – OMG! I loved the insanity of the Greek Gods!
The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller
A Thousand Ships by Natalie Hayes
Circe by Madeline Miller
Pandora’s Jar by Natalie Hayes
Mythos by Stephen Fry
Divine Might by Natalie Haynes
Apparently I could go on and on. I also read quite a few Graphic Novels.
What was your greatest musical (re)discovery?
I’m not very adventurous when it comes to music and go days without listening to it. However another of my paintings was used for the cover on a CD for the Art Hudson Band!
I do love hearing Ken sing when he plays guitar.
Maybe this year – I’ll make an effort to listen to some music as well as the audiobooks I enjoy.
What did you want and get?
A great life
Forty friggin years of sobriety!
Flowers
What did you want and not get?
Really, really Drunk and really, really high! Seriously!
I still want new furniture for the living room.
A woman President in the White House
Sanity in politics
Bacon!
What was your favourite film of this year?
I’m not a movie person. Ken and I watch Dr. Seuess’s The Grinch together each year. Does that count? I don’t know why we even have Netflix, all I ever seem to watch is the stupid guide.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 69 on May 20. I got a lot of attention, cards, a visit from friends, and two cakes and of course I went for a hike!
What one thing made the year immeasurably more satisfying?
One thing – being married to Ken Parker. And I’m not just saying that, he really does make everything better and easier.
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2024?
I continue to literally wear the same ole. This year, I received a lot of Diane Kehoe’s clothes after she died and can now dress up fancy in true hippie style. Marian gave me two of her fancy hats, one has feathers and I sure enjoy wearing them. Mostly, I continue to wear hiking pants and boots and long sleeve turtle neck shirts. A hat is usually on my head when I go outside.
What political issue stirred you the most?
Seriously? Put your seatbelt on – it’s going to be bumpy.
Yes, I know my privilege.
Who and what did you miss?
Who I miss –
I miss hanging out and laughing with Art and his silly kitty Mittens.
I miss having a cat
I still really miss my mom, Kim, and Patti.
What did I miss?
Pork chops, and bacon.
Living pain free
I didn’t miss many activities as we like staying home. However, please remember when dealing with your introverted friends… We may not go, but we always want to be invited!
Who was the best new person you met?
Our librarian Jeff.
Jeff has become our personal librarian. He began by picking books of interest for Ken and putting them aside for him. Then he put a few books on hold for me – well, I must say it is GREAT to go to the library and have a book chosen for you. He has picked some wonderful reads for us both.
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2024.
Marry well
Never get shingles!
Forget the nouns – enjoy the verbs
A small gift is never inappropriate
Take joy in the minutia of a day. What we do daily will determine how we look back on our life.
Be kind
We never finish grieving the death of a loved one. We learn to live without them and it sucks.
Never underestimate the ignorance of a voter.
What happens when you die?
First off, the people who love me, will cry and miss me. Then hopefully they will come and clean out my stuff.
On we go, with love
Yesterday I was so angry and it was coupled with grief and fear. I went into the woods and just cried. I feel like someone I really loved has died and I don’t know how to go on without them.
It is not grief for the election results That is anger. Anger that the dumbing down of the population that started with the election of a Hollywood celebrity, Ronald Reagan has been the one trickle down policy that worked for the masses.
Anger that the misogyny, racism and violence that is commonplace continues. That progress is made and lost.
What I feel besides fist shaking rage, is a depth of grief that has taken my legs out from under me.
Watching and listening to people sing Kumbaya, hearing people say we just need love and to turn the other cheek and take the high road makes me want to throw up and burn the fuckers down!
It is too soon for those, for me. I’m not ready to make nice. It is too soon to tell me to “have hope.” or “Nourish my heart.” And blah blah blah.
Oceans rise – empires fall -We know this. Yet, denile, good fortune and living in Canada with a border has kept me happy thinking my life and those I love were safe from hate and greed. I was wrong. We are not immune and I feel the time to duck and cover is NOW.
I can not fathom the global issues of the world economy and climate change that will surely burn – For me, I lie awake and worry about loved ones whose sole income is the social security that will be taken away, leaving them even more vunerable. I worry that my friends who happen to love someone of the same sex are open targets, that bathrooms are battlegrounds, that women have no voice or choice, that books are burned, and guns are rampant, and that the belief in a white christian god is the only acceptable way forward. And I am sickened that America thought a demented, felon, and rapist was a better choice to lead them than a moral and educated woman of colour.
I also know – Canada is not all so far behind this horrid right wing trend. That we will probably elect Pierre Poilievre and have our own hate and cruelty to deal with.
250 years of a country tis of thee proves to be enough.
Will we feel safe and comfortable again? Probably. We may even have moments of joy today. After all, besides that Mrs. Lincoln – the play was pretty good. We will chat about food, hikes, places, people and things. We will laugh and cry and sally forth. That is our fortunate life – But, when the comfortable and vulnerable are threatened by the cruel and powerful…for me, there is a righteous fear, anger and grief.
I know action is required, be it hiding, moving, or fighting. I hope we all do what will be best for each of us. If I can help those who need it, I want to.
I learned that in a fast paced and very busy ER, mistakes are bound to be made – and one of communication was made with me last week!
I did NOT have a heart attack! I’m fine! I’m also very relieved!
Anyway – I was sent home with a prescription for a nitro inhaler that I’m to use when and if my chest hurts. I’ll also get a stress test and see my doc next week. The cardiologist and neurologist in Vancouver will be calling me.
Are you ready for another episode of as the world turns around Jan?
As they say, I may not be much, but I am all I think about!
I could warm you up or I could jump in… Jumping in…
I had a fucking stroke!
In the last month or so, I’ve been having what I call “my spells” – I get dizzy, fuzzy, and sometimes I lose my hearing and my sight goes blurry. In February at the Tucson airport I had a doozy spell. I sat down, said darn it and when I felt better – got up and moved on.
When I told my doctor she asked me to get a CT scan of my head. Honestly, knowledge does not make me feel better. I had what they call an ischemic stroke. That is the kind that blocks the blood, not the kind that burst it.
I can move all my limbs and my speech is fine. To look at me, there is no physical change. I still need a haircut!
After hearing this news last Monday, my blood pressure, which is usually quite low, went through the roof and I ended up at the clinic – good news – that was just a panic attack brought on by this news.
I saw Dr. Baxter on Monday and we asked and answered a million questions. She’s ordered more tests and put me on medication. Because I don’t drink, smoke, or have a big stressful life, and I exercise really well, don’t need to lose weight and we eat a very clean diet…. medication and knowledge is about all she can offer as the next right thing for me.
The bad news is I can’t change my family genetics.
I’m okay, a bit fragile right now, and really embarrassed. My healthy ego has taken a real hit!
I feel like my body has betrayed me and I’m too healthy to just drop dead. However… I guess anything can happen to anyone at any time. And I’m anyone!
Our pharmacist, as well as our doctor said the biggest side effect from the medication I’m on now is a longer life – I liked hearing that!
Remember when I did drugs? Now I take pills!
Ken is a rockstar husband who is keeping me in the moment. Together we are doing the next right thing… Which is living with gratitude and continuing to enjoy our wonderful sysphenan life.
2023 in Review
So, here we go again…My Sisyphean life up for review! I will say, for the most part, 2023 was a good year. Ken and I are happy, healthy and grateful.
The Year in Review in simple question and answer form.
What did you do in 2023 that you’ve never done before?
Pilates
Shared High Tea at the Empress Hotel
Joined the board of directors of our local quilt guild as Vice President.
Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions/motto, and will you make more for next year?
No resolutions to speak of. I do have a few goals in mind for 2024. I’d like to get our affairs in order, actually they are in order, but could use an update.
The motto of Do Good stands well with me.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Several friends got more grandchildren.
Did anyone close to you die?
Yes. And sadly, this list is only going to get longer each year as we get older. In 2023 family, friends, teachers, friends of ole and spouses of friends died.
Let me say their names.
Ron Parker
Lloyd Zeust
Robert Peters
Diane Kehoe
Larry Loucks
Wen-Mei Yu
Kathy Keenan
Richard Granada
Theresa Smith
Deb Hopson
Janice Skeels
And some good dogs died as well.
MuMu, Purty, Bonsai, Ruby, Roxo, Henri, Suki, Honey, Maggie, Browzee
What countries did you visit?
The better question is did I leave the coast? And the answer is YES! Four times!
I flew on a seaplane and vacationed in Victoria with Andrea.
I was a guest at Marian’s birthday party on Bowen Island.
Ken and I drove into Vancouver. It took nine hours and we went to one store!
I attended my 50th High School Reunion in New Mexico, with a stop in Las Vegas to visit Art, Mittens, and the Isola Peak Ave. gang.
What would you like to have in 2024 that you lacked in 2023?
I don’t lack much – anything I do miss out on is because I get lazy or my being an introvert kicks in and I’d rather stay home.
What events from 2023 will remain etched upon your memory?
Our dog MuMu was fine and then dead a mere 3 hours later. Her death shocked us with zero prep. I know we all think we would like to die that way, but it really sucks for those left behind.
Going to my high school reunion was great fun and dancing with my childhood friend Dorcas while we caught up was a real highlight. Almost running into a bear with Trina was exciting, hiking with Susie and Aspen was delightful. Talking story with Clevenger and Zelinski was just grand. I was really glad I went.
Also, anytime spent with my brother Art is good.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I don’t set out to achieve – However, I do keep count.
I read 43 books and listened to 75.
Hiked 1740 km most of them solo or with MuMu.
I kept my girlish figure, within a pound or two all year.
Gave away 13 quilts as “random acts of fabric” and continue to raise money for our food bank selling and sewing tote bags.
I can bake a mean loaf of bread now.
I continue to take painting lessons with Jess Rice and see I’m slowly making progress!
What was your biggest failure?
Happily nothing comes to mind too quickly.
I was totally surprised when I was shown a particular Pilates move, then when I tried it – I was flabbergasted that I couldn’t even come close to performing it! (I used to have a smarter body).
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Gratefully, Ken and I are well and healthy.
We have aches and pains that come with the luxury of age.
We both had colds this year and are still in the “not yet” category when it comes to Covid.
I have a jar of CBD cream on my counter that helps a lot with the chronic pain and noise from old injuries.
What was the best thing you bought?
Sandy’s Bakery in Gibsons has these peanut butter and chocolate cookies that are worth mentioning.
Ken bought a fancy new lathe
I got new hiking boots.
We have a full wood shed and a freezer full of food.
Whose behaviour merited celebration?
Flo Lindsey, Tammy Totman, Art Hudson, Jess Rice, Anna Michael, Kathy Granger, Allyson Appen, Trina Raper, Mike Clevenger, Kas Sears, Gary Worrell, and of course my BFF Sandie Moss!
I continue to cheer the everyday actions of my husband Ken.
Whose behaviour appalled you?
You know who you are… (and are probably not reading this!)
Where did most of your money go?
We are fortunate to be able to say most of our money goes towards making life easier for ourselves and others.
What did you get really excited about?
Eating New Mexican green chile for breakfast, lunch and dinner!
Biscochitos, and Christmas cookies!
Writing to pen pals and dancing with old friends.
Spending hours alone in the woods.
Receiving letters and packages in the mail.
What song will always remind you of 2023?
Hey Baby (they’re playing our song).
Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? Happier
ii. thinner or fatter? I’m still in my self-imposed weight range.
iii. richer or poorer? Richer in all ways that matter.
What do you wish you’d done more of?
Great question. I tend to do what I want.
Off the top of my head I wish I had eaten more cheese.
Did you fall in love in 2023?
Ken has my heart. Our life together is good. We celebrated 40 years of marital bliss this year.
What was your favourite TV program?
I record TV shows, then fast forward through them. I finally got around to watching The Office.(meh) I like Annika, Silent Witness and Midsomer Murders.
Have you let go of any resentment or have a regret you cling to?
I continue to resent selfish, stingy and narcissistic people in general, Specifically, I’m done. Not mad, not bothered, just done.
I still regret never learning how to make tamales.
What was the best book you read?
I read a lot this year – a few favorites were:
Squirrel Seeks Chipmunk by David Sedaris
Riding the Lightning by Anthony Almojera
Ducks by Kate Beaton
Sailor Twain by Mark Siegel
Women and Power by Mary Beard
Fayne by Ann Marie Macdonald
The Five Wounds by Kristen Valdez Quade
The Scent Keeper by Erica Bauermeister
The Murmur of Bees by Sofia Segovia
Hotline by Dmitri Nasrallah
What was your greatest musical (re)discovery?
I’m not very adventurous when it comes to music and go days without listening to it. However one of my paintings was used for the cover on the latest CD for the Art Hudson Band!
I do like hearing Ken sing when he plays guitar.
Playing music trivia with Art Hudson is beyond fun!
What did you want and get?
New Mexico green chile.
Time spent with old friends, including a reunion with six friends who were in the same kindergarten class as me!
Thirty-friggen-nine years of sobriety!
What did you want and not get?
Drunk
New furniture for the living room. (we tried, but “supply chain” issues.
Evening snacks!
I’m still on the hunt for a new ironing board cover that fits my ironing board.
What was your favourite film of this year?
I think the only film I saw this year was Oppenheimer. I’m glad I read the book American Prometheus and also knew the story from growing up in Los Alamos. I was disappointed they filmed it near Abiquiu and not up on the hill.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 68 on May 20. I got a lot of attention, cards, cake and a bird bath for the yard, plus I went for a hike! It was a good day.
What one thing made the year immeasurably more satisfying?
One thing – dancing with Dorcas!
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2023?
I continue to literally wear the same ole, same ole.
What political issue stirred you the most?
I stir easily. It’s best for me to keep my head down.
Yes, I know my privilege.
Who and what did you miss?
Who I miss –
My friend Kas moved off the coast and took her dogs Oliver and Rodney. I miss them.
I miss hanging out and laughing with Art and his silly kitty Mittens.
I miss MuMu
I miss having a cat
I still miss my mom, Kim, and Patti.
What did I miss?
Not much. However, please remember when dealing with your introverted friends… We may not go, but we still want to be asked!
Who was the best new person you met?
Shelly Elston.
Shelly lives in the neighbourhood and we’ve seen her walk her dog Ava. This year, Ken made a table for her and in trade she offered cookies and a few Pilate’s classes. Well, I fell in awe of her skill, knowledge and humor and I signed up for regular Pilates lessons now.
A shout out also goes to Cheryl, Glenn and Teresa.
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2023.
It’s not that hard to be kind or generous.
A small gift is never inappropriate
Take joy in the minutia of a day. What we do daily will determine how we look back on our life.
If your friend writes a book – buy it!
We never finish grieving the death of a loved one. We learn to live without them and it sucks.
What happens when you die?
First off, the people who love me, will cry and miss me. Then hopefully they will come and clean out my stuff.
On we go, with love
It’s New Years Day 2023.
I posted my year in review questionnaire yesterday and as I re-read it I realize how repetitive it was from last year and the year before!
I joke that Sisyphus was basically a happy man — doing the same thing over and over again, day in and day out, only because the same ole tends to suit me. I like a routine, a rut, a ritual.
“Always and Never the Same” could be engraved on my headstone. (if I were to have one).
For the most part how I spend my time is the same, day after day. I hike different trails, read different books, eat different food, but when asked what I’m going to do – I usually say, Same ole, knowing I’ll probably read, hike, sew, cook a meal and maybe paint!
I hear you get good at what you practice — well, I’ve gotten good at enjoying the day without too much fanfare. I am happy reading, sewing, hiking, cooking and sometimes painting.
In the days before Covid, I did the same things, only there was less fear and more of a freedom to share with company, community, friends and family.
Then Covid hit the world and we were told to stay home. Stay away. Be careful — stay safe!
I struggled at times with all the restrictions. I was both jealous of and pissed off, at the people who went on about life, socializing and traveling.
But, stay home we did, and time past. It got easier to stay home, to not entertain or have company. I was busy at home and we got very comfortable.
Ken and I are hardly that couple who are joined at the hip, yet we like being together. We are homebodies, introverts, and being retired, we know we can spend the day doing anything we want. So, we do.
We also check in with each other often.
Ken will ask, Are you doing okay?
And, if he goes somewhere he will ask if I want to go as well. Sometimes I ride with him to the building centre and wait in the car for him to get whatever. Often, I say, no.
And, I would ask Ken, do you want to come with me on this chore or join me for a walk? Nope, he would say. However, he often offers to drive, to drop me at a trail head or pick me up at the end of one. He’ll be the one to waits in the car while I go into a store.
The only place I dally now is in the woods. The days of looking around a store, picking shit up and putting it back down are over.
At first it wasn’t so hard as it was different. We were all in the same storm. Now four years in, we are practiced. The habit has been made. I’m still reading, sewing, hiking, cooking and sometimes painting. Ken stays busy as ever with all sorts of projects. That man has a to do list!
The thing is….it works for us. We are happy! We do get out and we do see friends, just not as often. We both belong to community guilds and do service work. It’s just a different comfort now. I’m in touch daily with several friends by text, email or zoom. I enjoy my social media community. I’ve developed a comfortable inner life. Being alone in the woods has become a remarkable joy.
Ken and I are comfortable with our own company and the way we spend our days. While I have no regrets, I was a bit taken back at the repetitiveness of the years review! I used to be cool!
I suppose if I wanted different, I’d do different.
I used to say the quality of your day will make up the quality of your life. I still hold strong to that truth. I also reserve the right to change my mind whenever I want.
But today, I can say I had a great day yesterday and hope to repeat it tomorrow!
December 31st, 2022 by Jan
Happy New Year! Let’s do this!
Being retired, homebodies, and introverts has continued to pay off for Ken and I. We still mask up, get our shots, wash our hands. We’ve dipped our toes back in the social waters, we eat out more often, yet we are happy with our own company for the most part. We continue to count ourselves fortunate to have stayed healthy as we enter the fourth year of the pandemic. I am especially grateful for social media, penpals and Zoom.
So, here we go again…Optimism is not necessarily a symptom of insanity, Maybe it is an attempt to preserve sanity
The Year in Review in simple question and answer form.
What did you do in 2022 that you’ve never done before?
I joined a book club
I got a flu shot
Started taking daily prescription pills. (we used to do drugs, now we take pills).
I spent almost a month in 44 C degree weather.
Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions/motto, and will you make more for next year?
I don’t remember last years motto or if I made any resolutions.
For 2023 I’m going with Coddiwomple!
Coddiwomple is an English slang word that means to travel resolutely and dynamically toward an as-yet unknown destination. It’s not the same as wandering aimlessly. The prevailing mood is not passivity and vagueness. Rather, one who coddiwomples has a sense of purpose about what’s enjoyable and meaningful. They may not have a predetermined goal, but they know what they need and like, and that seems to suit me just fine right now.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
I don’t think so. Oh, Linda got another grandchild.
Did anyone close to you die?
Yes, way too many. Let me say their names.
Betty Marks
Machelle Fontenot
Annie Aculiak
Tuen Shut
Richard Labonte
Gary Shipley
Tom Masich
Dale Morgan
George Zawadzki
Mike Taylor
Sid Morrell
What countries did you visit?
I went to the USA!
What would you like to have in 2023 that you lacked in 2022?
Professional haircuts
What events from 2022 will remain etched upon your memory?
The phone call from Tammy telling me of the horror and sadness of Machelle’s death. Watching her funeral on zoom.
Caring for Art after his successful heart surgery.
The joy of hiking alone in the deep woods with MuMu.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I read 25 books and listened to 56.
Hiked 2140.45 km most of them solo and / or with MuMu.
I kept my girlish figure, within a pound or two all year.
Gave away 18 quilts, and continue to raise money for our food bank selling and sewing tote bags.
What was your biggest failure?
Getting my grandmothers 100 year old fur coat made into slippers was a big fail. However the pillows made from it are lovely and a fine success.
Sending money to the USA is all but impossible!
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Ken and I in general are well and healthy.
We have aches and pains that come with the luxury of age.
I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis in my neck, and am learning to live with chronic pain. I now take daily pain pills.
The noise in my head from the injury is more subdued and I am grateful. (again, pills help).
I fell twice in the woods and bruised my hip and ego.
What was the best thing you bought?
We aren’t shoppers, and buying stuff is either boring or stressful. We are fortunate to be able to keep ourselves stocked with supplies for our hobbies. We continue to eat like kings, and we are able to share.
Whose behaviour merited celebration?
The people who live on Isola Peak Ave. in Las Vegas. I salute the way they came together to help my brother through his heart surgery. Special shout out to Gary, Jim, Marie, Maxine, Richard, Steve and Maryann.
Tammy Totman stands tall and brave and I love her.
Also, Sandie Moss, Patrick Visser, Jess Rice, Anna Michael, Kathy Granger, Trina Raper, Kas Sears, Dr. Julie Baxter.
My brother Art gets a special salute!
I continue to cheer the everyday actions of my husband Ken.
Whose behaviour appalled you?
You know who you are…
Where did most of your money go?
I’m grateful to be able to say most of our money went towards making life easier for ourselves and others.
What did you get really excited about?
Big trees, forest walks, bear sightings, and the beauty of the Sunshine Coast. Art gave me the tome America’s Test Kitchen and well, it is the bomb!
What song will always remind you of 2022?
The Dance sung by Garth Brooks.
Then there was the music of a saucepan and metal spoon clanging at 2 am just to keep me on my toes!
Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? As happy, with a few more WTF moments loaded with grief.
ii. thinner or fatter? At this writing I’m one pound up!
iii. richer or poorer? Richer in joy
What do you wish you’d done more of?
I wish I had said yes more, as I want to be asked, invited and included on adventures – yet the introvert in me knows I probably wouldn’t go. It is still nice to be asked.
Did you fall in love in 2022?
Ken has my heart. Our life together is good.
It was really nice to feel genuine sibling love for my brother.
What was your favourite TV program?
I record TV shows, then fast forward through them. I like the last 5 minutes of baking, sewing, singing, and painting competition shows.
My secret shame was getting hooked on Sister Wives! OMG!
I also watch a lot of Chicago Fire, PD and Med. (note to self – never get sick or in trouble in Chicago, but if your house catches on fire – call firehouse 51).
Have you let go of any resentment or have a regret you cling to?
I continue to resent selfish and stingy people.
I still regret never learning how type with my thumbs.
What was the best book you read?
I read a lot this year. A few faves were,
Beijing Bittersweet by Andrea Falk
Love & Saffron by Kim Fay
The Pedestriennes by Harry Hall
The Brief and Wonderous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz
Ragged Company by Richard Wagamese
Music is History by Questlove
It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay by Megan Devine
I also read the biographies of Billy Porter, Willy Nelson, Elton John, and Sally Field and was surprised.
What was your greatest musical (re)discovery?
After reading Questloves book, I listened to some of the rap music and musicians he talked about. I’m not very adventurous when it comes to music and can go days without listening to it.
I do like hearing Ken sing when he plays guitar.
Playing music trivia with Art Hudson is beyond fun!
What did you want and get?
The trucks that have been parked in front of our house since we moved here FINALLY left! Oh, and I got a new belt.
What did you want and not get?
Cookies and evening snacks!
Invitations
A new ironing board cover. (only because I can’t find one that fits my ironing board.)
What was your favourite film of this year?
No films were watched in a theatre. Some TV movies were seen, but none that stand out. I prefer to read.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 67 on May 20. I got a lot of attention, cards and cake and went for a hike!
What one thing made the year immeasurably more satisfying?
One thing — being able to be there for my brother when he needed it.
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2022?
I’ll let you know when I buy new clothes. Sigh…
What political issue stirred you the most?
I stir easily. It’s best for me to keep my head down.
Is climate change political? Is Covid? Is tRump in jail yet?
Sechelt was on Stage 4 water restrictions for more than 4 months. Living in a rainforest during a drought and not having access to enough water is crazy making and sadly, political.
Don’t get me started on the US and their “supreme BS court”, abortion, republicans, or whack-a-doodle Christians.
Yes, I know my privilege.
Who and what did you miss?
Who I miss –
If you are reading this, I miss you!
I miss hanging out and laughing with Art and, his silly kitty Mittens.
I miss having a cat.
I still miss my mom and Kim.
What did I miss?
I ask that question daily!
Who was the best new person you met?
Gary Worrell hands down! He is a generous and giving man. I am forever grateful for his support and friendship!
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2022.
Saying life is short so we should enjoy every moment, is no excuse to eat crap, not exercise or take care of yourself.
We never finish grieving the death of a loved one. We learn to live without them and it sucks.
Being comfortable with yourself for long periods of time is grand.
It’s not that hard to be kind or generous.
What do you think happens after you die?
The people who love you, will cry and miss you.
On we go.
“That’s a good box.” I can hear my Grandma’s voice in those words. She was the perfect judge of a good box and for better or worse, she passed the skill on to me.
I think of my Grandma Hudson everyday for a variety of reasons. She was such a good influence in my life that almost everything reminds me of her. One great memory hits me when I cut a banana with a spoon, another is when I come across a good cardboard box. And, like Grandma, when I do, I announce it for all to hear.
That’s a good box, you should save it.
Ken and I are not moving anytime soon, yet, we have a stack of “good” moving boxes stored in the shed. I confess I also have boxes of all sizes stored in the closet and some under the bed.
I know, I know…. It doesn’t make sense. I hate clutter and sort stuff as a hobby. I love to clear out crap constantly. I love getting rid of stuff and our car usually has a bag or two full of stuff in the back that needs to be dropped off at the Sally Anne. And, yet….when I see a good box, I keep it!
Good boxes are the best!
Grandma always said, you never know when you’ll need a good box. I totally agree. One day, that good box will come in handy and I’ll be ready! In the mean time I like remembering my Grandma and a good box allows me the pleasure.