Curious conversation â€” when making new friends does political or religious opinions make a difference to you?
How about with people youâ€™ve known and loved for years?
When my friends A and L told me they were going to have a child, I told them that I would do my best to stay in their life. That sounds arrogant, but the truth is, most of my friends that decided to have children and I parted ways. That is unless their kids where grown up already or not a part of our relationship.
News flash – I am not kid friendly.
So far I have kept my word to A and L, and Iâ€™m glad I did. Their son is 16 or 17 years old or something like that. They also have a 5 or 6 year old daughter. I am still not kid friendly, no one calls me Auntie Jan, but I treasure the friendship so much that I wasnâ€™t willing to walk away from them just because they procreate.
I also have a few friends who believe in a god and some that their church is important to them. Even though we disagree, I wouldnâ€™t dream of walking away from them. I doubt I have any friends who like Steven Harper or George Bush – but I have family who does.
So, I do have good friendships with people who hold different political, social, or religious views than me. But, truth be told â€” not that many. And I donâ€™t hang out at church, playgrounds, or the Conservate party so as to meet many more.
Perhaps birds of a feather â€” flock together. And, truthfully I could not imagine being friends with anyone who is homophobic, racists or mean spirited.
I do not enjoy discussion or debate with close minded folks and they probably donâ€™t either. (Except, I do know some who take the opposite view no matter where you stand, just for sport.)
I usually ask right off the bat, is there anything that would or could make you change your mind about XY or Z? If the answer is no, I tend to move on down the road. The same goes for if I answer no to the same question. If my feet are dug in, what good am I?
Now, as open minded as I think I am, I do get my feet firmly dug in on some topics. Iâ€™ll probably always say, Fuck Cancer! I canâ€™t imagine not wanting to kick Steven Harper in the balls, and it is very hard to imagine me ever being kid friendly.
So, as we become part of a new community and try to make new friends, I am learning more about myself, and am curious as to where I will draw the line and hold comfort with folks holding different views than mine.