I will say that over the last 35 some years, Ken and I have asked each other at least once a day, if there was anything we can do for the other. It’s nice.
Most of the time, the answer is no. Once in a while, the answer is yes, and a particular chore that the other can’t or doesn’t want to do, is brought up.
As you know, lately though I have been chief cook and bottle washer in the house. I’m doing all the chores while Ken is healing.
I don’t mind. It has been necessary.
I also remember a time many years ago, that Ken was the one who did everything, when I was learning to walk again, including holding me up in the shower. He didn’t mind then either, after all it was necessary.
Now, because he is making such good progress, we’re at a point where Ken can start doing things on his own.
Slowly though. He doesn’t need to rush into what the doctor called, “normal activity”. But, he does need to start doing a little bit here and a little bit there. And I need to learn to “let” him. Building wellness the next right thing.
He started his morning downstairs yesterday! He built a fire and had his coffee in his chair, just like old times. It was lovely. At one point, I asked him if he wanted another cuppa. He said, he could get it.
I went back up stairs and then bought the coffee pot back down with me.
There is doing stuff for each other because it is necessary, and there is doing stuff for each other because it is nice.
I’m happy to report, being nice is getting priority again!